Winter Fest

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This year for Christmas, I received heated socks. And last year, I got a pair of heated mittens – I guess that my transformation into an outdoorswoman is complete.

As I have told you before, I live minutes away from a national park and it took the COVID pandemic for me to make hiking there a weekly activity. And as I started hiking more and more, I noticed that what was stopping me from truly enjoying myself was not having the proper gear. It just isn’t fun to end a hike with blisters all over your feet. It’s even less fun when you feel like you are minutes away from losing a toe due to frostbite. But let’s be honest, it’s more than the fear of hypothermia that was keeping me away from parks, ski slopes and lakes. Like many others in the black community, I had bought into the narrative that the outdoors wasn’t my thing.

Before 2020, wellness for me involved spending money on myself: getting my nails done, meeting friends up for brunch, going shopping, and grabbing drinks after a long work week. I certainly didn’t equate wellness with going for a hike on a snowy trail in the middle of February. I guess I always knew that getting outside could improve one’s health and well-being. It’s not hard to believe the many studies that have shown that it increases physical activity; lowers blood pressure; improves social interaction; decreases levels of stress and anxiety. But let it be the advertising or my own beliefs, I – like many others – had managed to convince myself that the outdoors were not for me. I didn’t see how doing something physical could bring me the inner peace I was searching for. I didn’t know that it would lead me to connect and engage with others in a way I never had. I now know.

While getting outside benefits everyone, the following public service announcement is particularly aimed at my people. With Black History Month fast approaching, how about we not only celebrate our ancestors and our heroes but also make our mental and physical health a priority by getting out there? Unsure about where to go or what to do? Check out Hike MTL’s Blk WinterFest. During the whole month of February, they will be offering black Canadians of all ages the opportunity to partake in a variety of winter activities in a fun, safe and inclusive environment.

So not afraid of heights? How about giving ice climbing – yes, ice climbing, downhill skiing or snowboarding a try? Would rather stay grounded? You might want to give snowshoeing, cross-country skiing or OAC skiing – a mix between skiing and snowshoeing a shot. Whatever you decide on, just know that all these experiences have been curated to get us moving all the while challenging some of our deep-rooted prejudices when it comes to the outdoors.

See you out there. And yes, I’ll be wearing my matching heated mitts and socks.

✌🏾 Sergelyne

“Shop with intent,” they said.

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Last month, I told you that I had started selling some of my clothes that no longer fit – let it be my body or my style – on Poshmark. The assignment was clear: make some extra cash. I, of course, misunderstood said assignment.

Everyone – minimalists and maximalists alike – will tell you the same thing: shop with intent, shop with a list. So that’s what I did. I went in looking for a bargain. And while looking for good deals, I found myself going down a rabbit hole.

So here’s some of what I’ve gotten in the past few months:

1- Something woven: To know me is to know that I’m a bag lady – which is not to say that I haven’t refined my collection. The idea was to keep only one purse per style, plus any – ok fine, all of the investment pieces. Even the bags I don’t use anymore. This means that I’ve retired my Speedy, but since I see retirement the same way Jay-Z does, there’s always a chance for a comeback. All this to say that after taking inventory of the bags I had left, I realized that I didn’t have a handheld everyday bag in a decent size. You know: not too big, not too small. So I got this Club Monaco navy woven tote.

Now, I normally would have gone with a black or tan purse, but it reminded me of a Bottega intrecciato tote. Plus, it was brand new, so at $22, it was a no-brainer. FYI, the smaller version is still for sale.

2- Something leather: As you know I turned 40 this year. I had visions of wearing leather – a leather skirt or leather pants – at my birthday celebration and therefore became obsessed with finding the perfect leather item. Now, no way was I going to drop the $500 Massimo Dutti is asking for. And while I know that vegan leather is all the rage, I just can’t. I don’t like the feel of them. I don’t like the look of them. And the look of them sure doesn’t like me. What makes me say that? Aritzia and Zara do sell many models at a reasonable price. But unfortunately, finding pants at these two stores has always been quite a journey.

So I looked for something on the secondhand market. I did find a pair of Danier leather pants in excellent used condition for less than $40. But I had to resell them – at a loss – because they didn’t fit. It isn’t just Aritzia and Zara that have something against le bum. Leather pants are pants made out of leather, ie. extra tricky to pull off. I will not be making that mistake again.

I did get a Danier leather skirt instead this month. Bon, it has a high-low hem and not exactly what I wanted, but I got it for a great price ($25) and it fit me perfectly. This is funny because this time I applied a lesson learned from my ill-fitting leather pants: it’s better to overshoot and get them fixed after. The joke’s on me, I guess…

3- Something Miu Miu: Speaking of making a list, these wedges were not on my list, but I couldn’t resist. They were listed as being in EUC (excellent used condition – three letters/words that are very sought after in the resale market) and designed by Miuccia Prada. Need I say more?

I’ve been an espadrilles girl – whatever that means – for the longest time. I’ve owned this one navy same pair for years and then two years ago I finally took the plunge and invested in the quintessential pair of espadrilles, Castañer – only to wear them less than five times. To be honest, I can only remember wearing twice: once in Costa Rica before the pandemic and once this past summer. I don’t know why I got them with a wedge so high and, of all colors, in ivory…

Anyhow, here’s to hoping that I am a wedge girl and just hoping to become one.

So these three items were my best secondhand purchases. Whether they were actually on my wish list or not, they’re the ones I look forward to building an outfit around and wearing. Don’t worry, I’ll talk about the letdowns in a later post.

Oh, by the way, the only leather I wore on my birthday was some old Nine West leather pumps that survived the great purge.

Hope you all had a restful holiday.

✌🏾 Sergelyne

Seat At The Table

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Starting August 27th, two women whom I have been following for a while now – Martine St-Victor and Isabelle Racicot – are back with their podcast Seat at the table. This season again, they will be interviewing and talking to several big names in the world of pop culture and media.

That being said, with everything that has been going on and as this teaser will show you, their second season promises to be about more than that.

I want to talk about it. But I don’t want to talk about it 24/7. But how can I talk about something else?

So the table has been set and the meal promises to be exquisite.

Rajni Jacques talks wellness

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And while we are on the topic of wellness, check out this interview that Prima Magazine did with the Fashion Director of Allure, Rajni Jacques. In it, she discusses her views on the concept of wellness and how she practices self-care.

To me wellbeing means having a sense of self and a sense of peace.

Hair Diaries

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Photo provided by Fanm Djanm

Ask anyone who knows me well and they will tell you: I am obsessed with the state of my hair. (Not so jokingly) I used say that I wished to be buried with my eyeglasses, a nice purse and my hair freshly laid. And since God has given me very thick coily hair, for the past 30 years, what I meant by freshly laid hair was freshly relaxed hair. You read right, I expected the mortician to relax my hair!

But as the years went by, as I started seeing more and more of my peers with natural hair, but mostly, as I started to acknowledge the toll that all this chemical processing had on my hair and my sense of beauty/worth, I realized that it was time to stop.

That being said, the conflicted relationship I have with my hair has not ceased because I am no longer straightening it. But one of the good things that came out of this obsession was the discovery of several black-owned brands like Fanm Djanm.

It may seem like founder Paola Mathé is selling something quite utilitarian – headwraps. But once you take a deeper look at her brand’s website and at her personal Instagram account, there’s no denying that her wish is to nurture black love, black joy and black excellence. And that she aims to empower the black community.

Paola Mathé se yon vrè fanm djanm!